The New Dare to Discipline

The novel "The New Dare to Discipline" by Dr. James Dobson is a well written book filled with lessons from life. The author sense of direction for discipline is beneficial for parents. The back of the book does not do it justice, nor the front. I had to read this wonderful book for my child philosophy class last semester. My first thought was oh great a book with nothing but pages about lecturing a child. To my surprise the book had questions from parents and Dr. Dobson unique replies. "The New Dare to Discipline" is designed to assist parents in the right direction for disciplining his or her child. Dr. Dobson is his own character in this novel and he goes into descriptive details about breaking down the word discipline. He does not suggest that a parent should taunt, smack, mock, or scream at their child. He explains that mocking or ignoring their child will destroy the respect that one has for another. Their bond will be damaged and the child will grow to be ignorant and hurtful towards others. Nothing unhealthy is right in Dr. Dobson mind when it comes to disciplining children. He suggest that when a parent or parents are being disrespected by their kin to win decisively. I found this book very helpful for my future for when I have children. In my opinion I find that this book will be more helpful for new parents. I only say this because I feel that newbies will benefit more from this book. They will learn how to correct their children the right way without any doubt. Dr. Dobson helps prepare parents when their cute wide eye child tries to get away with things. Dr. Dobson is like a ghostly hand helping parents find their way. He discusses how parents should work as a team to be a stronger figure for their kin. Children will grow into a responsible and respectful adult when parents stand together. If one parent punishes the child and the other allows some slips to happen, the child will disrespect the other parent. Many parents do this today. Parents can also relate to Dr. Dobson with his real life stories which ease the parents mind. Like the time his mother punished him for laughing in her face when she tried to punish him. She whipped him so quick that he was taught to never disrespect her again. In all, Dr. Dobson helps each parent find their way to making a stronger bond between them and their kin, and gaining respect for one another.

To read some of the other reviews here it sounds like this is a how to book on beating your child. Fortunately I decided to read this book and make up my mind for myself. This is not a "spanking book". This is a book about teaching a child discipline at home and school. One of the methods Dr. Dobson advocates is spanking, but this is definitely not the only means he mentions! Along with other non-physical negative reinforcements, he also lists and promotes many different positive reinforcements you can use with your child. I would recommend this book even to someone who never plans on spanking their kids, not because I think they'll get talked into spanking by this book (although he does make a good argument for it), but rather because his method and philosophy could be implemented even without spanking. This book delivers an important message about discipline that I think all parents should rather, regardless of which side of the spanking camp they're on. Basically the most important (but definitely not only) message I got from this was is if your child openly and defiantly decides to challenge your authority, you should win that battle decisively. Spanking is but one method to win that battle. If more children respected their parents' authority our kids would be a lot better off. Of course that assumes the parents are deserving of respect, but if you're taking the time to read parenting book reviews I assume that you are. :) Still not convinced this book that this book isn't only about spanking? In his book Dr. Dobson states that: * All out spankings are not often required. * Spankings should be reserved for a child's moments of greatest antagonism, usually occurring after the third birthday. * As a general guideline, most corporal punishment should be finished prior to first grade. * There are children for whom spanking is not appropriate (he gives specific examples of this, but he also states that "there is no substitute for knowledge and understanding of a particular boy or girl"). Lastly, this book isn't solely about discipline. I was also pleasantly surprised by the large amount of time spent addressing problems and solutions that come up during elementary through high school education. There are also sections on sex ed and drugs.

I am deeply saddened to see much of the negative, and frankly, flat out inaccurate information that many people have written in their reviews about this book. Before reading this book, I read many reviews, particularly the negative ones. And, after having carefully read the book, I am dismayed at how many reviewers clearly have not read it as their reviews grossly did not reflect what was in it. My expectation was that Dare to Disclipline was going to be an advice book based on Dr. Dobson's experience. And while he did share many of his experiences (which were in an impressive variety of settings with children and families), I was surprised to see that it was far more what I would consider a summary of research study findings, and MANY thereof. This is ABSOLUTELY NOT a spanking book or a book advocating voilence in any way, and Dr. Dobson makes that very clear in his book. To suggest that these claims are made is simply pure fallacy. Lastly, I want to state that before reading this book, I knew virtually nothing of Dr. Dobson except that he is a significant part of "Focus on the Family." And since having read this book and starting another, which I am only 1/3rd of the way into and it has already well-surpassed the number of research references that Dare to Disclipline had in it as a whole, I have nothing but the utmost respect for Dr. Dobson. I cannot think of someone more qualified to write books about raising children than a man of his education, profound experience, and sheer eloquence in the delivery of such often sensitive information. I am grateful that such a person is available to give parents such valuable information, and I hope readers get as much out of it as I did.

It’s a must read for all parents

Great book for parents for raising children. The earlier they read it the better for the parents and their children. Contains practical advice for handling and disciplining children. Bit difficult to read, the author could have added few more anecdotes to make it more interesting.

In a generation where discipline is not the priority, in a world full of lies and blindness. This books gets us back to basics in discipline and review how it is something beneficial rather than abusive as some people say. Must read

My children were brought up on the original Dare to Discipline, so when my best friend wanted a book for her son and daughter-in-law she naturally asked me about it! James Dobson fully understands how to bring up children, and love them through all the problems of discipline. He solved no end of problems for me, and is now really helping my Godson's family, and lots of other people I have recommended him to. If you have any doubts about the way you bring up your children, then this is the book for you. If you have no doubts - then you probably need it just as much!

This books offers clear guidelines to discipline loved children. Being a father is an overwhelming challenge, this book helps you diffuse the noise and false advice and to focus on the true family values, particularly love and respect.

Was always worried how to deal with my kid. This book is a good guidance and has given solutions to some of my child problems