--- product_id: 59954343 title: "The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse (The Narcissism Series)" price: "NT$823" currency: TWD in_stock: true reviews_count: 13 url: https://www.desertcart.tw/products/59954343-the-covert-passive-aggressive-narcissist-recognizing-the-traits-and-finding store_origin: TW region: Taiwan --- # Healing Strategies Insightful Guide Psychological Insights The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse (The Narcissism Series) **Price:** NT$823 **Availability:** ✅ In Stock ## Summary > 🔍 Uncover the Truth, Heal Your Heart! ## Quick Answers - **What is this?** The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse (The Narcissism Series) - **How much does it cost?** NT$823 with free shipping - **Is it available?** Yes, in stock and ready to ship - **Where can I buy it?** [www.desertcart.tw](https://www.desertcart.tw/products/59954343-the-covert-passive-aggressive-narcissist-recognizing-the-traits-and-finding) ## Best For - Customers looking for quality international products ## Why This Product - Free international shipping included - Worldwide delivery with tracking - 15-day hassle-free returns ## Key Features - • **Expert Insights:** Gain knowledge from psychological research and real-life experiences. - • **Community Connection:** Join a supportive network of individuals on similar journeys. - • **Unmasking the Hidden:** Discover the subtle traits of covert narcissism. - • **Transformative Awareness:** Shift your perspective and reclaim your emotional well-being. - • **Empower Your Healing Journey:** Equip yourself with actionable strategies for recovery. ## Overview The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist is a comprehensive guide designed to help readers identify the traits of covert narcissism and navigate the complex emotional landscape that follows. With expert insights and practical healing strategies, this book empowers individuals to reclaim their lives and foster emotional resilience. ## Description Do you feel confused and exhausted by a relationship, and you can’t figure out why? Do you feel like you can’t think straight, and the person in your life seems fine, so you wonder if maybe you are the problem? Has someone mentioned you might be with a narcissist, or you wonder yourself, and when you research narcissism, they don’t seem to completely fit the description, although some of the traits do ring true? The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist is the most comprehensive and helpful book on the topic of covert narcissism. Also available in Spanish as El Nacisista Pasivo Agresivo. Find the answers you are looking for. This book delivers: A list of traits of the covert narcissist and how they look like in daily life The differences between an overt and a covert narcissist A checklist to see if you are with a covert narcissist Real-life stories to illustrate what these traits look like Explanations of different covert techniques narcissists use to control and manipulate A chapter dedicated to what sex looks like with a covert narcissist Descriptions of covertly narcissistic parents Information on what it looks like to have a covertly narcissistic boss or co-worker A chapter on healing to help give you tools and hope for a beautiful future, free of toxic relationships. You will see that you are not crazy, that your instincts are correct, and you will learn how to see through covert manipulation and control. The most common description a survivor of this type of relationship will use is crazy-making. The emotional abuse and gaslighting makes you question your own view of reality, and sometimes your own sanity. You will know after reading this book if the person you are with is a covert narcissist, and your experience with them will begin to make sense for the first time. When most people think of a narcissist, they think of someone who is grandiose, obviously self-absorbed, sees themself as superior to others, and throws fits of rage when they don’t get their way. But what if the narcissist is one of the nicest people you’ve ever met? What if they are a great listener, seem to care about others, or are a pillar of the community? What if they are the mother that volunteers at the school, the husband that your friends wish they had, the boss that your co-workers feel so lucky to work for? Parents, spouses, partners, bosses, and friends who are covert narcissists come across as the nicest people. They can be spiritual leaders, therapists, moms who bring over casseroles to needy people, and bosses who everyone loves. A covert narcissist has the same traits of narcissism as the well-known overt type. The difference is when they control and manipulate, when they demean and devalue you, it is done in such a subtle way you don’t notice it. This type of narcissism is one of the most damaging forms because the abuse is so hidden and so insidious. You can be in a relationship with a covert narcissist that can last for decades and not realize you are being psychologically and emotionally controlled, manipulated, and abused. There are no visible scars with this form of abuse, and you are usually the only one that experiences their destructive and psychologically debilitating behavior. Living with a covert narcissist drains your spirit and leaves you questioning your own reality. You have been lied to for years, and it is time to finally see the truth of what you have been through, who you really are, and how much you deserve love and happiness. Review: This book is the ONE STOP SHOP about Covert Narcissism - I write this review nearly a year after I was discarded by a CN. Beautiful soul, if you are looking for answers and you’re finding yourself, as I was, endlessly searching articles and videos for something to help you make sense of things, look no further. I highly recommend finding a therapist or life coach first. After all, we need to understand things about ourselves that attracted a CN to us in the first place (most of these being admirable traits). But this book is the best supplemental resource to help you reflect on your situation and understand the actions you need to take on your journey towards healing. I consider myself far along in my healing process. However, like the author, I had to do an enormous amount of digging and researching before discovering the term “Covert Narcissist” and what that entails. For someone suffering through a discard and the relentless barrage of abuse , it was like being blindfolded on the front line of a war zone; you know you’re being attacked, but you don’t know the terrain nor do you know the type of ammo being used against you. Everything is foreign. All you know is the person attacking you appears to have hijacked the mind, body, heart, and soul of the person you thought loved and cared about you. Pain like none other. Debbie Mirza has given us a gift by compiling everything into this book. Like she says, you will get through this and you will emerge better, stronger, and wiser... I know for a fact this is true. I cannot even begin to express the abundance of blessings that came about once I found clarity. Even though I read this book already knowing how beautiful healing feels, I still gained so much. It helped me further refine my understanding of the dynamics between CNs and their targets, as well as knowing what I need to do for myself to prevent toxic people from entering my life again. My only wish is that this book was available to me when I was at rock bottom, feeling isolated and alone. Wishing you a blessed journey along your path to healing. Review: Debbie Mirza nails it. - Bingo! At last, bingo! I get it. With Debbie Mirza’s book I have finally been able to put together the last pieces of the complex, tangled jigsaw puzzle I’ve been piecing together through several years of psychotherapy. Everything fell into place when I read her book. Finally, finally I was able to read about MY experiences, MY own truth about being in intimate relationships with covert passive-aggressive narcissists—a perfect term for them. I’d often suspected narcissism lay behind their behavior, but when I’d read about narcissists as defined in the DSM or other books, things didn’t quite fit. But in Mirza’s book, all the pieces fit. I am a softhearted empath always ready to rescue anyone (or any living being) with love and compassion. I’m open and easily make myself vulnerable in an attempt to reach true loving communication with my other. That strength was turned against me by intimate others who needed to put me down so they could be in control, get things their way, get their needs met, my needs of no matter and unmet. It was so confusing! My intimates were the joy of my heart, one of them the love of my life, but then without warning, they would shun me, withdraw affection, gaslight me into thinking I’d done something terrible. I had no idea what I’d done to cause them to behave this way. But the truth is, I did NOT “cause” them to be emotionally abusive toward me. It was all about them, their inner demons, their needs, especially their need to keep me under their thumb so they could get their way and feel powerful rather than weak and insecure, which is how they truly felt. There is nothing I ever did to deserve this emotionally abusive treatment. It was not about me. It was all about the squirellyness going on inside them. I finally got it. Not a single other person who knew my intimates would ever suspect any of them were capable of emotionally abusive behavior. To the rest of the world, they were accomplished, lovely people. Covert abuse is the exact right term. Their facades were flawless. I understand my complicity—that my empath’s need to rescue and help others with love and kindness filled a need I had when I sought to rescue and help the narcissists in my life, whom I did love—a love each was incapable of reciprocating because they truly don’t get what love is. I understand now how I got into these painfully confusing relationships. I understand how I was the perfect target for their self-serving power plays. I also see myself clearly. I know who I am, and I am not who they tried to make me think I was when their gaslighting found me wanting. I am a thoroughly good and kind human being capable of love and caring. I am enough, just as I am, worthy of love and respect--at all times, not just the manipulative sweet times. This book helped me put all the pieces together. I was almost there on my own after years of psychotherapy, but this book showed me how the last pieces fit together and glued them in place. Thank you, Debbie Mirza. Last comment: Psychotherapists need to read this book. Out of five therapists over the past twelve years, only my current one clued me into “It’s not about YOU; this is on the other.” She recognized their unacceptable behavior, saw me for who I am, and guided me toward insights I needed into my intimate others and into myself. With my other therapists, the focus was on me fixing me, me “getting in touch with my emotions,” me learning to be “assertive,” me changing my attitude by keeping "a gratitude journal," me accepting that “this is the way a lot of men are” and I needed to deal with it—when what needed fixing was me getting out of these relationships sooner than ASAP and finding the freedom to be who I am. Getting out of the crazy-making relationship is the only way forward. There is no changing a covert narcissist. Heaven only knows, I tried. And failed, in my first marriage and in my second. I'm 82 now, and I've never been happier in my whole life just being me, unencumbered by intimate others who professed to love me but then would emotionally devastate me without warning or cause. I hope this book helps younger women get out of crazy-making relationships sooner than I was able to. I couldn’t put the book down. I underlined, highlighted, wrote notes in the margins, circled paragraphs, dashed off huge exclamation points. This book is going to help a lot of women. ## Technical Specifications | Specification | Value | |---------------|-------| | Best Sellers Rank | #15,437 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) #5 in Domestic Partner Abuse (Books) #6 in Personality Disorders (Books) #115 in Interpersonal Relations (Books) | | Customer Reviews | 4.6 out of 5 stars 4,898 Reviews | ## Images ![The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse (The Narcissism Series) - Image 1](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/71tSYV4qv5L.jpg) ## Customer Reviews ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ This book is the ONE STOP SHOP about Covert Narcissism *by S***M on February 20, 2018* I write this review nearly a year after I was discarded by a CN. Beautiful soul, if you are looking for answers and you’re finding yourself, as I was, endlessly searching articles and videos for something to help you make sense of things, look no further. I highly recommend finding a therapist or life coach first. After all, we need to understand things about ourselves that attracted a CN to us in the first place (most of these being admirable traits). But this book is the best supplemental resource to help you reflect on your situation and understand the actions you need to take on your journey towards healing. I consider myself far along in my healing process. However, like the author, I had to do an enormous amount of digging and researching before discovering the term “Covert Narcissist” and what that entails. For someone suffering through a discard and the relentless barrage of abuse , it was like being blindfolded on the front line of a war zone; you know you’re being attacked, but you don’t know the terrain nor do you know the type of ammo being used against you. Everything is foreign. All you know is the person attacking you appears to have hijacked the mind, body, heart, and soul of the person you thought loved and cared about you. Pain like none other. Debbie Mirza has given us a gift by compiling everything into this book. Like she says, you will get through this and you will emerge better, stronger, and wiser... I know for a fact this is true. I cannot even begin to express the abundance of blessings that came about once I found clarity. Even though I read this book already knowing how beautiful healing feels, I still gained so much. It helped me further refine my understanding of the dynamics between CNs and their targets, as well as knowing what I need to do for myself to prevent toxic people from entering my life again. My only wish is that this book was available to me when I was at rock bottom, feeling isolated and alone. Wishing you a blessed journey along your path to healing. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Debbie Mirza nails it. *by W***Y on August 24, 2024* Bingo! At last, bingo! I get it. With Debbie Mirza’s book I have finally been able to put together the last pieces of the complex, tangled jigsaw puzzle I’ve been piecing together through several years of psychotherapy. Everything fell into place when I read her book. Finally, finally I was able to read about MY experiences, MY own truth about being in intimate relationships with covert passive-aggressive narcissists—a perfect term for them. I’d often suspected narcissism lay behind their behavior, but when I’d read about narcissists as defined in the DSM or other books, things didn’t quite fit. But in Mirza’s book, all the pieces fit. I am a softhearted empath always ready to rescue anyone (or any living being) with love and compassion. I’m open and easily make myself vulnerable in an attempt to reach true loving communication with my other. That strength was turned against me by intimate others who needed to put me down so they could be in control, get things their way, get their needs met, my needs of no matter and unmet. It was so confusing! My intimates were the joy of my heart, one of them the love of my life, but then without warning, they would shun me, withdraw affection, gaslight me into thinking I’d done something terrible. I had no idea what I’d done to cause them to behave this way. But the truth is, I did NOT “cause” them to be emotionally abusive toward me. It was all about them, their inner demons, their needs, especially their need to keep me under their thumb so they could get their way and feel powerful rather than weak and insecure, which is how they truly felt. There is nothing I ever did to deserve this emotionally abusive treatment. It was not about me. It was all about the squirellyness going on inside them. I finally got it. Not a single other person who knew my intimates would ever suspect any of them were capable of emotionally abusive behavior. To the rest of the world, they were accomplished, lovely people. Covert abuse is the exact right term. Their facades were flawless. I understand my complicity—that my empath’s need to rescue and help others with love and kindness filled a need I had when I sought to rescue and help the narcissists in my life, whom I did love—a love each was incapable of reciprocating because they truly don’t get what love is. I understand now how I got into these painfully confusing relationships. I understand how I was the perfect target for their self-serving power plays. I also see myself clearly. I know who I am, and I am not who they tried to make me think I was when their gaslighting found me wanting. I am a thoroughly good and kind human being capable of love and caring. I am enough, just as I am, worthy of love and respect--at all times, not just the manipulative sweet times. This book helped me put all the pieces together. I was almost there on my own after years of psychotherapy, but this book showed me how the last pieces fit together and glued them in place. Thank you, Debbie Mirza. Last comment: Psychotherapists need to read this book. Out of five therapists over the past twelve years, only my current one clued me into “It’s not about YOU; this is on the other.” She recognized their unacceptable behavior, saw me for who I am, and guided me toward insights I needed into my intimate others and into myself. With my other therapists, the focus was on me fixing me, me “getting in touch with my emotions,” me learning to be “assertive,” me changing my attitude by keeping "a gratitude journal," me accepting that “this is the way a lot of men are” and I needed to deal with it—when what needed fixing was me getting out of these relationships sooner than ASAP and finding the freedom to be who I am. Getting out of the crazy-making relationship is the only way forward. There is no changing a covert narcissist. Heaven only knows, I tried. And failed, in my first marriage and in my second. I'm 82 now, and I've never been happier in my whole life just being me, unencumbered by intimate others who professed to love me but then would emotionally devastate me without warning or cause. I hope this book helps younger women get out of crazy-making relationships sooner than I was able to. I couldn’t put the book down. I underlined, highlighted, wrote notes in the margins, circled paragraphs, dashed off huge exclamation points. This book is going to help a lot of women. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Get this book if you know you’re dealing with any kind of narcissistis *by C***. on March 8, 2026* Worthwhile read. Details behavior w examples. Strengthens resolve when determining relationships viability. 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