Negative Self-Talk and How to Change It

After the 2020 year of negativity wore me thin, I had anxiety, and angry all the time, felt under appreciated, and overwhelmed that I was sick of feeling this way by November. I wanted to stop thinking so negatively and wanted to think more positive. Keyword is the desire or want to stop thinking negative. This is the only way I believe it works. You have to WANT to change your way of thinking. It won't happen overnight, it won't happen unless you want to change. It's a lot of work, and we all have our low days, so don't expect immediate results. With that being said, I bought a bunch of different positive thinking books. This is one of them. I have to say reading this book opened my eyes to the recognizing the negativity thrown around so much. I can't believe how much negative thoughts are around when you aren't even thinking about it. There are sections of this book that helped me understand why mother is the way she is - even going to multiple therapy sessions over many years, never taught me as much as this book has. It is well written that I couldn't put it down after I started it, finished in a day and 1/2 with a full time job. The best part is learning why I'm negative and how just hearing it in the back of your mind, can influence the negativity to the forefront. It explains the different stages of negativity and I can see why my mother would be as negative as she is, but she lacks the desire to change her thoughts. I'm one of those daughters that doesn't want to be like her mother, ends up being her mother anyway. This is one of those books that teaches you how to identify and how to change it. I bought a copy for my sister. I also gave one to my daughter. I don't want her to become like my negative self (that I'm working very hard to change). I also bought Emotional Blackmail by Susan Forward Phd, and it is pretty good read as well. I bought Positive Thinking by Amelia Torres - horrible read. Not for me. The book is 77 pages long and it has taken me over 4 months to get through it. I'm sure it works for some, but I'm not one of them. Maybe I will get through my other books, and come back to this one. I also bought the other book - What to say when you talk to yourself by Shad Helmstetter, PhD, which I haven't read yet. I'm trying to stay in one book at a time. As an added bonus in one of the reviews I read for one of these many positivity books I bought, to get a book, Let That Sh*t Go by Monica Sweeney, cute little journal to write in for when you are trying to find your happy place. She has 2 others that I also invested in, which I also recommend. I'm just trying to do my part to make 2021 better, by investing in myself. Couldn't we all use a little more positivity in our lives?

A great book to reprogram negative thinking patterns. This book is on par with the books of Norman Vincent Peale as well as the book Cyclomancy. Indispensable for those that know mental health is part of the Biohacking game.

A good book to read and understand how to treat yourself better and be positive.

A very simple, yet evaded understanding for many of us. Seeing things we know, but don't fully acknowledge in ourselves, is good towards reinforcing and encouraging ts to take those steps we need in order to get past our roadblocks. To get past what we allow to hold us back and emotional sandpits we've accepted into our lives and embraced as 'the way it is'. Despite what you are used to, what you are encouraged to do, what you are allowed to do or reinforced to do, jlu are able to see a real truth through your openly reading this text. Not an excuse to get out but an actual truth about how you have been holding yourself back bcause that is a-what you were expected to do, b-what you were taught to do, 3-what is the easiest wasy to think as it is how everyone else does, etc. Bottom line, Hold onto principles but not harmful habbits and self talk. You go out and be the best person you want to be, that person who asks to talk to the manager each time he/she gets great service. Talk to the manager and tell them that the "Ms. X" your server is very personable and made for us to have a wonderful evening. she deserves kudos. Thank you.

This was an excellent book so I turned around and bought a few more. I am a Christian and was not sure if the author was because nothing was mentioned about Jesus then how much to the end of the book he talks about Romans 12:2 or you can transform your mind and he said that's the most beloved person for him and his life from the Bible. I'm so grateful that he put that in the book. Because I know that there's life and death in the power of the tongue and this helps me become a better Christian That's why I totally completely and fully excited that I have these books in my Kindle library. God bless you doctor Shad Helmstetter for all your marvelous works on these books and what God has done in your life. God bless you as you continue to progress in your Christianity and in helping others. Your sister in Christ Sharon

There are excellent points in this book on how to change negative self-talk, that could positively change lives. And it is worth the money and a good read. However, this author coined the term Negative Self-Talk Disorder. Negative self-talk is not a disorder, disease or illness. The author missed an opportunity to explain that the brain is a 'threat detector', designed to keep us alive, survive. That's its primary job. Out of all the info out there, this is what I have learned. So, negative self-talk is a natural function of the brain to protect us from danger (real or imagined). One missing key is to get curious about our negative self-talk, and not label it as a 'disorder'. This is where I think the author did a disservice, by not emphasizing negative self-talk's purpose. It has a purpose. And it would have been extremely helpful to address negative self-talk in the context of our lives and not call it a disease...so to speak.

This is a good book that everyone should read and have in hand to go back to.

-Very interesting and enlightening. -Wish I had read this book years ago. -Positive self-talk is the goal. -Thank you so much for sharing these tools.

The book offers simple yet very practical approach to hard change. Often simple things are profoundly effective,this book is one such. The language is simple and tools practical and easy Just read and start a new prosperous life awaiting you

I first studied What to Say When You Talk to Your Self. I confirmed why most of us behave ineffectively due to the fact that we receive “instructions” from parents, family, friends, media, all of which “create the programs” followed by our subconscious, which works as a computer that follows perfectly well its instructions without thinking or analyzing consequences. I know that because I programmed the fist Univac transistor computer back in the 1950’s. I made lots of errors in my first programs and I know that the computer did exactly the programmed errors I wrote. The process of debugging the programs to correct errors is equivalent to the appropriate self talk to correct or eliminate our false beliefs, our insecurities and improve ourselves. One of my books (in Spanish) is titled Succeed or Fail with the Power of Your Thoughts. One of the ideas I mention is that great life winners, without knowing how, incorporate qualities like perseverance, grit, discipline, due to defining for themselves transcendent or powerful goals and their determination to realize them paying the necessary price. Reading the books of Shat will no doubt help me greatly to improve the quality of my life (since never is too late) and hopefully the life of my dear grandchildren!

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This is not a book, it's an unnecessarily long and depressingly obvious attempt by the author to lure you into subscribing to his (paid) "self-talk streaming service". Forget about seeing anything remotely scientific in these stream of banality.

A great book full of insights and useful advice. Very motivating and a great reminder on the power of the human mind.