Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live)

Great book! Very informative. Helped have real conversation with my husband regarding splitting house work. Would recommend to any couple. Makes for a great gift.

Everyone especially if you are a woman in a relationship- needs to read this book to more fairly bring equity into your relationship. Typically, in most household’s in a marriage of a woman, and a man, the woman ends up, holding a vast majority of the mental labour. This book helps to name it, explain it, and help more fairly split up the mental load.I think every single person who’s in a relationship where you live in the same household should be required to read this book.

My wife shared with me a podcast where Eve Rodsky was a guest. We both got hooked into that episode, we looked into the cards game, I bought the book so we could have it at home and rebalance our relationship specially when big changes happen (marriage, kids, pets, renovations, new jobs, etc).Reading the book was such as disappointment in comparison. The podcast was all hype, the cards game is awesome to have conversations, the book was written for people that need a smack on the back of the head with the book itself to wake up from a fever dream in barbieland. I don't know who needs this book, I'm sure there will be people that haven't evolved all the way to adulthood and will need everything spelled out for them about how an adult relationship is supposed to work. Unless you feel like you are partnering a child, skip the book. Listen to the podcast maybe even buy the card game. Skip the torture of the reading.

My husband and I fit into the category of husband and wife with two kids so the context of this book was great for us but I am not sure if it would fit other family set ups.We have really explored how to achieve more fair play in our household and shared family life. We read it a chapter at a time sharing the book and then discussing each area. We haven't played the card game yet but we wanted to find out the reasons why we both felt frustrated.If you are lucky enough to have a partner that is prepared to read then this is a great book.

We recently had our second baby and while she has brought us immense joy, her arrival sucked the life out of our 13-year relationship. I found myself on the verge of a nervous breakdown trying to manage our entire household—a special needs 10 year old, a newborn, and two cats, plus all the other work that goes into maintaining a safe and tidy home—all on my own. During my sleep-deprived research, I saw a recommendation for this book and decided to check it out. I was not disappointed!The first thing I noticed when I began reading was the validation. All the invisible work and the mental load I was carrying (things my husband still can’t quite comprehend) was perfectly laid out in this book. The exhaustion, the burnout, the resentment, the unfairness of it all…clearly outlined in a way that showed us both just how much I’m doing and why I feel so overwhelmed all the time.The second thing I noticed was how balanced and reasonable the solution could be. My husband and I were both impressed by the idea that the workload can be fair without being evenly divided. As a stay at home mom, I expect to carry more of the household responsibilities. That’s what I signed up for and it’s what I want to do. But I no longer have to carry ALL of the responsibility. My husband has taken a few things off my plate. And while we’re still not quite where I want to be, we’re moving in the right direction.