Radical Collaboration, 2nd Edition: Five Essential Skills to Overcome Defensiveness and Build Successful Relationships

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This book opened my eyes and has given me the tools to collaborate with a clear head. The first section of the book identifies the signs you are becoming defensive, the second part elaborates and helps you explore your subconscious to discover why you are really becoming defensive. It has become easy for me to identify when my response to a situation is irrational due to all of my underlying insecurities weighing in. The book also does a great job pointing out your flaws without making you dwell on the past, it has the intention of exciting you to do better in the future. The last part of the book helps you with techniques for effective collaboration. I recommend this book to everyone, I think it will add value to anyones life.

I was introduced to the Concept of Radical Collaboration by a course ran by Jim Tamm and a partner. I decided to read the book afterwards. I recommend it to all persons who has to work with a high number of persons, whether at equal level, lower or higher level. The material's insistence on personal authenticity requires much introspection but allows the better ability to choose to remain and negotiate from "the green zone". It improves all relationships if practised. Though said, one could miss the importance of boundary setting in the book, hence the rating of 4. It is a very useful book to read and reread.

I am a psychotherapist, and not only have I found this book to be an excellent summation of ways to help improve ALL relationships, but it has also become a good tool I use as I go through the book with my clients. Want to have better relationships? Figure out what your own defenses are and why you have them. Then learn how to deal with your own, and with those defenses that other people have. Then with an increased sense of safety, openness becomes much easier. This is a very well written, easy to read pathway to improved relationships. What could be more valuable?

Discovering the nature of defensiveness and "button pushing" was invaluable for me personally and for being able to now see it in others. I just loved Chapt. 2: "Hey, Buzz Off ... I Am Not Defensive!"Quoting:"Defensiveness is a poison pill to good relationships. In conflict, defensiveness is like blood in the water to a shark. A little here, a little there, and in no time the situation has degenerated into a feeding frenzy.""Defensiveness is always based on fear.""Defensiveness does not defend us from others. It arises to protect from experiencing our own uncomfortable feelings. The prescription for dealing with your own defensiveness is to let yourself experience those feelings. Do not avoid them.""Defensiveness provides only temporary relief. It's like covering dog poop with whipped cream. It may look good and smell better for a short time, but it doesn't deal with the underlying issue or clean up the mess.""If you think of your childhood as an eighteen-year-long hypnotic induction, you'll get a better idea of how behaviors that were helpful to us as children may have taken on a life of their own and my not be helpful to us as adults.""Defensiveness distorts our reality, causing us to spend more energy on self-preservation that on problem solving."This was great, too:"The difference between a small annoyance and a button is like the difference between Teflon and Velcro. It is slips off you like Teflon, it is not a button getting pushed. If, however, the incident sticks in your throat, heart or gut like Velcro, then you've probably got some unresolved fears or pain that is a button waiting to be triggered."The authors say that when buttons get pushed, people typically get dumber, rather than smarter. "By our informal calculations, there is about a twenty-point drop in IQ."Because of this book, now when I feel my anger rising from what someone else is saying, I tell myself, "Hey, is this defensiveness? If so, am I going to let myself get dumber or try instead to see why the button pushing is making me react poorly?"

Wonderful book by a former State of California Senior Administrative Law Judge who mediated almost 2,000 employment disputes over his career. He also worked as lawyer in HR at General Electric.Lots of stories, examples, checklists, and how-to information for how to get beyond what's at the heart of most disagreements--defensiveness.I refer to and recommend the book in my leadership classes at an agency of the department of defense, and to clients at other federal agencies.

This book provides a good outline e however needs to be updated to reflect current market and the diversity of 2013

Great book, one can realize immediately the authors have great knowledge on the topic. It is needed more careful attention the kindle edition though, some huge typos were noticeable. I do not know if the hardcopy edition has them.

Good read. Arrived promptly. Quality good.

Effective book on figuring out how to deal with conflict and collaboration in teams. The ideas are well presented and explained. The red zone explanation was an aha moment for me. The book has changed my thinking on collaboration, I finally understand why not everyone wants to do it and how you can try and break through the resistance

Du concret et une excellente analyse des freins et moteurs de la coopération. A faire lire par tout manager ou dirigeant.

This Is not a book, this is a tool to use over and over again to improve communication and to make the best usage of collaboration.I have the honor to meet James during a study program at Duke and his lesson really impressed me and gave me a lot of hints/tools to grow personally and professionally.Strongly recommended!

Je pensais acheter un livre neuf et il n'était écrit nul part que c'était un livre d'occasion.