Red Flags: How to Know He's Playing Games with You

This is a very upfront, honest read. Some of the material may offend certain people, but that's only because they're in denial and do not understand the basic concepts of instincts and basic biology. In any case, this read was actually a decent eye opener for me. I mean, it's not the holy grail of social science and psychology, it touches on the basics and it's written by a man, someone who knows the male psyche rather well. I went through a rough break-up. I did everything in here that he states pushes a man away. In the beginning, I was the fun, loving, carefree, independent, confident, non-jealous chick and as the relationship progressed and I found out what kind of man I was dating and I became too available, needy, way over emotional, and even afraid he would leave me. I was completely and utterly not myself. Yikes, where did the old me go?!When we first started dating, he was very clear to me that he did not want a relationship. First red flag. I was warned by other people about him, people who told me how much of a player he was. Second red flag. But he was charming, handsome, smooth, smart. He was a ladies man and women would hang on every word he said, including myself. He knew all of the right words and the challenge was exciting for me. It felt AWESOME that he chose me and all of the other girls were left pining for MY man. Third red flag. He was adventurous, always out, extremely spontaneous and carefree. He lived solely to enjoy himself and have fun. Another red flag!As time went on, there were inconsistencies that I began to notice. I would catch him in little white lies. I tried to tell myself they weren't that big of a deal. He would always tell me how much better he wanted to do for himself, but his actions were never consistent with his "goals". When we would argue, he would disappear and go MIA, I mean for weeks! That did a number on my self confidence when in all actuality I should have left that tool right there & then! He would never speak of the future with "us", only about him and what he was still working toward. Basically, if I read this book sooner I would have been better equipped and read the warning signs sooner. Don't think for one second this can't happen to you, I tried to be the girl who changed him, the one who was good enough and special enough and lucky enough to change his ways. Guess what, I wasn't, and it hurt like hell to fall in love with this man only to walk away broken hearted.This is a great read for anyone who is single and/or dating, anyone who feels as though maybe something is "wrong" in their current relationship and/or you're just at a crossroads and unsure. Nobody is perfect, I understand, but if you're not getting what you want out of a relationship, why stay? Read this for understanding, read this for shi*ts and giggles and cuddle up under a blanket, read this for empowerment. If you constantly find yourself in the wrong relationships and you're tired of it... give this a read.Will definitely be reading more by this author. He has quite the sense of humor, too :)

I really enjoyed this book. I seen how much I was sacrificing and trying to make things work in my own relationship, and how selfish my Ex boyfriend is, now Was.I took the author of this books advice, and picked up new hobbies and hardly answer any texts from the Ex. Once in a blue moon and I keep it short and sweet......after all I'm super busy and he's no longer my top priority!

I learned nothing from this book. It’s a rehash of all kinds of other work peppered with “evidence” that is not supported with data. He may make some good points (which is why I gave it 2 stars and not 1), but there are so many really good books out there to read. I recommend Sandra Brown’s “How To Spot A Dangerous Man” as a great read and an sample of what this kind of book SHOULD be.

Yes, if you are in the dating world, you need to read this book monthly to remind you what to do and what not to do.....seriously! We women can get lost in what men say and try to swoon you with. Talk is cheap.......repeat to yourself, talk is cheap! Do not get caught in this trap, if he's really interested, he will put the time and effort in. Don't you dare make excuses for his behavior, you're worth more so make him earn it. If you're not getting this, move on...........right away because you are being played, block him. That's why you need to read this book time and time again. Do not be any mans doormat.......those women are plentiful and a dime a dozen

This book literally stopped me in my tracks from being the victim to having the upper hand and giving myself my power back. The author has definitely given those who did not get a rule book the strategies to stop second guessing themselves and see things exactly as they are. The information in this book is a gift that I am more tham sure will benefit me for a lifetime. Thanks Brian.

Extremely helpful! I've always found men to be difficult to figure out and I have a tendency to forgive a lot...too much in fact, in part because of abuse from both parents, but especially my father's beatings...I tend to be forgiving in the hopes that the bad behavior will be corrected. This book has done a lot to clear up the ambiguity in my mind as to the male (at least the one's that I've chosen) intent.

Brian is so good and straight forward, that he makes walking away easier. he has the goods and the return on the investment of buying this book is beyond $5,000 dollars in therapy!!! there are legitimate things he is saying in every chapter and so worth reading and knowing!!! All women need this information...it changes heart break and gives real movements that changes you and how you react almost instantly!!

I originally downloaded this book because I thought it might help me figure him out. But what it really did was make me look at myself. I turned that last page with tears pouring down my cheeks. No, he is not here to see me behaving like an emotional basket case, lol. I am 56 years old and behaving in every self destructive manner described by the author. I nag, I yell, I cry, threaten, accuse...I can't believe that he is still here! Thank you for opening my eyes.

After a traumatic experience with a narcissist I really needed some assistance with reading signs and knowing the score. I think this book is something that you should be gifted before you start dating. It would save you a lot of heartache and wasted energy.Thanks very much Brian.

I thoroughly enjoyed this book. While it was not totally original and earth shattering for me (I have already read some similar insights from others like Dr. Phil and Steve Harvey), it does reinforce and expand on some of those issues. It was easy to read and the ideas were set out in a clear and logical manner.

A good book with some interesting points but not long enough!! Could have explored things in more details which would have been better value for money

Wake up to the game players - it's not your imagination

Loved this book, so glad ive read this and i will re read it when i need to refer back in the future